DEAR  BRIDEE:  I was shocked to be fired from my last job. Not all my fault. Was this legal? I don't know what to say in job interviews when asked "Were you fired? Why?"-- F.S.

FIRST STEPS. Because no one thinks straight when shocked, automatically ask for a future meeting to discuss the mechanics of your departure. Say you need time to collect your thoughts. Ask for a letter of recommendation even if Security is escorting you to the parking lot.

Now or at the meeting, the number one piece of information you need is what will be said about your exit: "It would help me to plan if I know as soon as possible what kind of response you'll be giving when employers ask about my references. I'm sure you can appreciate my need to know."

You're too smart to allow yourself to speak ill of your former boss or company, or mention that you are instituting legal action over your firing because you did no wrong. Both topics are poison.

Instead, try your own version of these 12 positive sample answers to the F-word question.

1. Being cut loose was a blessing in disguise. Now I have an opportunity to explore jobs that better suit my qualifications and interests. My research suggests that such an opportunity may be the one on your table. Would you like to hear more about my skills in working with new technology?

2. My competencies were not the right match for my previous employer's needs but it looks like they'd be a good fit in your organization. In addition to marketing and advertising, would skills in promotion be valued here?

3. Although circumstances caused me to leave my first job, I was very successful in school and got along well with both students and faculty. Perhaps I didn't fully understand my boss's expectations or why he released me so quickly before I had a chance to prove myself.

4. The job wasn't working out so my boss and I agreed that it was time for me to move on to a position that would show a better return for both of us. So here I am, ready to work.

5. After thinking about why I left, I realize I should have done some things differently. That job was a learning experience and I think I'm wiser now. I'd like the chance to prove that to you.

6. A new manager came in and cleaned house in order to bring in members of his old team. That was his right but it cleared my head to envision better opportunities elsewhere.

7. Certain personal problems, which I now have solved, unfortunately upset my work life. These problems no longer exist and I'm up and running strong to exceed expectations in my new job.

8. I wanted my career to move in a different direction, and I guess my mental separation set up the conditions that led to my departure. But by contrast, the opportunity we're discussing seems to be made for me and I hope to eventually grow into a position of responsibility.

9. I usually hit it off very well with my bosses, but this case was the exception that proved my rule of good relationships. We just didn't get on well. I'm not sure why.

10. My job was offshored to India.

11. I outlasted several downsizings but the last one included me. Sign of the times, I guess.

12. I was desperate for work and took the wrong job without looking around the corner. I won't make that mistake again. I'd prefer an environment that is congenial, structured and team-oriented, where my best talents can shine and make a substantial contribution.

FINALLY. Practice in advance what you'll say. Then keep it brief, keep it honest and keep it moving.